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Hello, Jill:  / Ron Tafoya (Friend)

I heard about this very recently from Derek Vunak, and I was really sad about this.  It's really terrible.  I didn't know Lori very well; I just talked to her a few times.  I thought she was really positive and had a great energy about her.  I just wanted you to know I was thinking about you, and I hope you and your family are doing OK.  Best wishes.
Memorial Video  / Lori's Family

More Photos  / John Portner

Poe's tribute to Lori  / Christopher Portner (Good Friend and fellow bowler )  Read >>
Poe's tribute to Lori  / Christopher Portner (Good Friend and fellow bowler )

With apologies to one of our favorite poets...

You loved with a love that was more than love 
And neither the angels in heaven above,
Nor the demons down under the sea,
Can ever dissever your soul from the soul
Of the beautiful Lori and Thee.

From your Brother,

With love 
My condolences to Sue, Phil, Jill and family  / Peggy Payne/Holmes (neighbor on Hazelbrook )  Read >>
My condolences to Sue, Phil, Jill and family  / Peggy Payne/Holmes (neighbor on Hazelbrook )
Dear Sue, Phil & Jill~

I am so sorry to learn of Lori's passing!!  I just heard this a.m. thru Bridgette (she found out while working on Lakewood's class reunion this weekend).  

Lori's passing at such and early age is so sad!!  May God comfort you and see you thru the days ahead!  May you always be reminded of all the wonderful memories of Lori!  I have many good memories of all of you while living as next door neighbors on Hazelbrook and us each having 2 daughters of approximately the same age!

Breast cancer runs in our family also--my mom and her sister--so, I contribute towards the fund regularly!

My prayers are with you--Peggy
Thinking about Lori...  / John Portner   Read >>
Thinking about Lori...  / John Portner
I was just thinking about Lori -  I knew Lori for many years.  Somehow we created a unique bond.  From about the year 2000 on, we planned our future together. Although she was fighting cancer the entire time, we never discussed death or even the possibility of it. The thing that occurrs to me is the stunning ability she had to live her life to the fullest despite the gigantic elephant that she was up against on a daily basis. Never, in all of those years, did she speak of losing. I ask myself, could I face such troubles with such courage? I sincerely doubt it. 

However, she was not naive. Perhaps I was. Sometimes she would cry with fear and I would attempt to console her with what I thought were real answers. How could we lose? We had the best doctors. We had the best support system. She had the best family. We had money. And her friends were there to support her to infinity and beyond. Losing was not in the vocabulary.  But, like the poet said, "I was wrong."

I've been thinking a lot about the last year of her life. She knew more than she let on. I think she was playing the hand she was dealt courageously, like a card shark. She wanted to win - that was her goal. But, if she couldn't win she was concerned about us. She did not want us to have to peer at that next hole-card with a trembling heart, like I know she had. Instead, she peeked at it with a poker face and called the bet. Never letting on that she just drew a deuce.

I've probably looked at the pictures and videos on this website a hundred times in the last couple of weeks. There is no picture of Lori displaying anything except beauty, courage, and joy. If she can do that, then who are we to worry about the trivialities of our lives? Like her father said, Lori is an angel and one of the time-honored definitions of angel is "teacher".

I think we have been taught a lesson.

(p.s. lori - i would have preferred a note...) Close / Joan Russell (friend of Lori's Aunt Linda )  Read >> / Joan Russell (friend of Lori's Aunt Linda )
Even though I met Lori only once at her 40th birthday bash, it was evident how very special she was!! Bubbly, bright and so welcoming to all!! She will be missed, but never forgotten and will live forever in the hearts of those she touched. When my father died, I found solace in the following poem by Mary Frye and I wanted to share. All my love to family and friends in this time of loss. Do not stand at my grave and weep I am not there; I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond glints on snow, I am the sun on ripened grain, I am the gentle autumn rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry, I am not there; I did not die. Close
Angels / Angelica Grover   Read >>
Angels / Angelica Grover
"Make yourself familiar with the angels, and behold them
frequently in spirit; for without being seen, they are present with you."
-Saint Francis de Sales

Lori, you are so beautiful  / Brenda Lewis   Read >>
Lori, you are so beautiful  / Brenda Lewis
I didn't know you but I think you have probably met my son Taylor now. He was fourteen when he left to be with the Lord. I hope you two hug and tell Taylor his mom sure does miss him, will you do that for me Lori. I've read about your life, you are a special lady. I wish I had known you.
Love to you Lori and your family
Brenda Close
Grunion Gazette Tribute from La Bella, Bella Salon, and Sweet Peas  / La Bella, Bella Salon, and Sweet Peas (Friends)  Read >>
Grunion Gazette Tribute from La Bella, Bella Salon, and Sweet Peas  / La Bella, Bella Salon, and Sweet Peas (Friends)
Click the link below to view the half-page ad that was placed in the Grunion Gazette by Lori's dear friends at La Bella, Bella Salon, and Sweet Peas:

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One word to describe Lori  / Karen Crovella (The Neighbor )  Read >>
One word to describe Lori  / Karen Crovella (The Neighbor )

     If anyone had asked me to describe Lori in one word, there would be one choice, and one only.
BRIGHT, is to me, the obvious choice! In Spirit, in Attitude, in Action,  , in Conversation, in Outlook, in Perspective, in the Bling....
In Understanding, in Hope, Love and Charity.....    In the face of adversity    Lori.Shrotman
Bright, BRIGHT,  BRIGHT !!!!!!!!
Thank you Bo,
for your light.

With You On My Mind  / Michele Larsen (Lori's Breastlink family )  Read >>
With You On My Mind  / Michele Larsen (Lori's Breastlink family )
Dear Shrotman Family,
This is a beautiful website - and a loving forum for the people who love Lori and each of you to express their feelings.  We continue to carry a collective heavy heart, and think about her every day.

As I read the loving words of Lori's friends and family, I'm compelled to tell you, Sue, that observing you and Lori together at each and every one of her visits was a beautiful thing.  Sometimes playful, sometimes quiet, always beautiful, your support and the love between you was felt by everyone who observed the two of you together.  

I can't begin to imagine the depth of your pain; as a mother myself it hurts my heart too much to even think about.  But what I CAN do is remind you, and Phil as well, that as Lori and Jill's mother and father, your parenting experience has been a total success.  Out of your love for each other came two beautiful, vivacious, kind, caring, funny loving women with a zest for life and love of family and many friends.  You taught them, nutured them, supported them, guided them until they became adults.  I congratulate you both on this difficult task.  As parents we know it's the most important and meaningful "assignment" we will ever be given.  

I know that words are just words right now.  My sincere hope is that the three of you will realize with a full measure of certainty that Lori was put in your care by no accident.  Her life was entirely too short, and there's no way to justify that.  But I'm so thankful that during her short life she was surrounded by a special family who had the capacity to love her enough for a very long lifetime, and who will continue to do so for all eternity.  In my own humble experience I've learned that blessings are still blessings, even when they don't last long enough.  

With great respect and much love,

Michele Larsen Close
letter from heaven  / Nella (visitor)  Read >>
letter from heaven  / Nella (visitor)
Letter From Heaven

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say.
But first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness;
Here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through.
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you.

It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, They'll be here later on.
I need you here badly, you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man,"

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years.
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry: it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
If I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is over.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too;
That as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain;
Then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented...that my life was worthwhile.
Knowing as I passed along the way I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low;
Just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street
and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go....from that body to be free.
Remember you're not're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey

A wonderful website-  / Thomas (friend)  Read >>
A wonderful website-  / Thomas (friend)
Lori is alive here! This is a wonderful website, and I will keep her in my prayers, Thomas Close
Just Thinking of Lori's family  / Christie May Ward (Friend)  Read >>
Just Thinking of Lori's family  / Christie May Ward (Friend)
Although I didn't know Lori well, I have known her since she was 10 years old.  I moved in to the house next door to her grandparents, Fred and Helen Davis, when I was pregnant with my oldest daughter, Carrie, 30 years ago.

Throughout the years, I have watched the Davis clan as they had their children and their children grew up.  We would always see everyone coming and going at holidays, birthdays, etc. when they would all gather at Fred and Helen's and we would be envious of their great big family all celebrating together! 

Just this last year, for the first time, the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer actually walked right down our street!  Several of us in the neighborhood set up a "cheering" section and cheered on the walkers.  My 89 year old mother, a 41 year breast cancer survivor, was one of the "cheerleaders."  On a large banner we wrote our friends and family's names--and Deb wrote Lori's name up there!  

This is a HORRIBLE disease!  With two daughters of my own, I can NOT imagine the grief of going through what Lori's family has.  I am SO sorry.   I want you to know that I've been thinking of you in this time of such sorrow.

I am glad Lori has Helen and Fred to be with! 

I will not forget you  / Dan Byrnes (friend)  Read >>
I will not forget you  / Dan Byrnes (friend)
To the Shrotman family....your daughter Lori was and is such an important part of who I am. She surrounded all of us with love and happiness....Love Danny Byrnes   Close
message to the Shrotman Family  / David And Debbie Dodge (friends)  Read >>
message to the Shrotman Family  / David And Debbie Dodge (friends)

Shrotman Family,  We just wanted to let you know that we are thinking of you often. We hope you find some comfort in all the loving memories of your beautiful daughter. As you know she will never be forgotten only terribly missed. When you are up to it maybe we can all get together and give each other a hug. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.We love you all.

We will not forget Lori  / Bill And Blanca Byrnes (friends)  Read >>
We will not forget Lori  / Bill And Blanca Byrnes (friends)

To the Shrotman family,  Only a few days have passed since saying good bye to Lori. We will always hold Lori so deep in our hearts, and be so very thankful for the time we had to spend with her.  As the saying goes, we hope time will heal us all. And as time passes, please remember that we will never forget Lori. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.......The Byrnes Family  

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone  / W.H Auden (Poet)  Read >>
Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone  / W.H Auden (Poet)
This poem was used by Lori's father in his eulogy to Lori. I can't get it out of my head so I decided to post it here: Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone, Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone, Silence the pianos and with muffled drum Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come. Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead Scribbling on the sky the message She Is Dead, Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves, Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves. She was my North, my South, my East and West, My working week and my Sunday rest, My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song; I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong. The stars are not wanted now: put out every one; Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun; Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood. For nothing now can ever come to any good. W.H. Auden Close
A message from John about Lori  / John Portner (She's in my heart )  Read >>
A message from John about Lori  / John Portner (She's in my heart )
Dear Family and Friends,

I don't know if you have heard or not but Lori died yesterday, December 26, 2006 at 12:40 pm. Her liver stopped functioning and she died quickly. She will be and is already missed. Actually, she is alive in my heart and there she will live forever.

Please pass the word on. I know that Lori touched your lives and when a good person like Lori touches you, you are all the better for it. As for me, I am just now realizing the difference she made in my life.

There must be a way for us to honor Lori. Perhaps a fund dedicated to her would work. If you have any ideas that could help me get this started please let me know. Ironically, this is the kind of thing that I would always have turned to Lori for guidance.

So please keep Lori in your thoughts and prayers. One of the last things she said was, "Please don't forget me." I wrote her a letter today and ended it with, "Please don't forget ~me~."

Lori is the love of my life and I am a better man for it. Unfortunately, her work on me is a project unfinished. My promise to her is that I commit to becoming the man she knew I could be. Too bad I have lost my teacher...

Thank you for reading. I love you all.


<<This was my original email.  Please see above for how to properly donate  on Lori's behalf.  But do donate.  She deserves it. >>
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